“Yes, I’m married. Yes, this was planned”

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Anyone have a silk screener? Make me a shirt that says the above — I’ll take 5 of ‘em in every color.

Let me paint the picture for ya.

When I’m out with the Mister, I receive loving, encouraging glances and smiles from women and men of all ages. “What an adorable couple,” they must be thinking “How sweet that they are starting a family.”

Now let’s take a moment to consider the reactions I receive when I’m with my mother — or my mom and dad together. Scans up and down, laced with judgement and disapproval. I know what they are thinking “Those poor parents who now have to support their high school daughter who couldn’t use a condom.”

You think I’m kidding?! I am dead serious people — the difference is mind-boggling – inarguable! Granted I don’t look the most “professional” when I’m out and about on the weekends with my mom — imagine cute sweats/leggings with little to no make up. And yes, I’ll admit that I’ve been carded a few times this year…at an “R” RATED MOVIE! (note, I’m 26) But still….

Imagine my horror when my wedding ring started getting a bit tight after long walks! I knew I had to shed it from the finger (or risk eventually having to get it CUT off) quick. My first move? A trip to the jewelry counter to get a *fake* replacement — I was not about to look unwed to those who actually took the time to evaluate my ring finger.

And as a side note: even if I were UNWED, 16 and pregnant — the dirty looks still wouldn’t be acceptable. Each women does the best she can and circumstances are never known, so really, judgement is never appropriate. I just find it even more frustrating since I’m actually 10 years older, married for nearly 5 years and planned to make our little boy from scratch quite sometime ago ;)

Don’t worry — In classic Shannon-style, I give them a run for the money. Just the other day I volunteered to be the one to run to the store and purchase all the beer for a client’s xmas gift ;) Hey, if I’m going to be judged, I might as well have fun.

10 Responses to ““Yes, I’m married. Yes, this was planned””

  1. VeggieGirl said:

    So you’ve met Anonymous face-to-face, eh? ;)

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  2. Erin (Travel, Eat, Repeat) said:

    Ha! I love your beer run. I can only imagine the looks you’d get there!

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  3. beth said:

    My hub looks really young so when I was pregnant I’d joke that people probably thought I was some weird cougar. …

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  4. Lauren at KeepItSweet said:

    OMG people are so judgemental! I bet you could think of some fun comebacks for those eyeing you like that. I am impressed that you take it so well.

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  5. Shelly said:

    I look really young as well….and of course the one time I’m in the store buying the most underage drinks I can think of (Bud Ice for my darling fiance and Raspberry Ice Crystal light and Vanilla Vodka for me- we drink tacky stuff during Mardi Gras) was the one time I *didn’t* get carded!

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  6. Carolina John said:

    I know I’ve been out of blogger touch for a while. But congrats on the pregancy! And have a great holiday.

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  7. RhodeyGirl said:

    I love all of your preggo stories!

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  8. Tina said:

    When I was 7 months prego with my first son(I was married a whole 5 months before we found out we had a bundle of joy coming) and I was in the card isle of Target when this little old lady went OFF on me about teenage pregnancy and what a disappointment I am to my parents.. what do they say at school, how do I expect to raise a baby without and education and how young people have no ideals, morals or common sense. Needless to say I told her to mind her own business.

    fast forward 10 years… I’m standing in line at Starbucks talking to a newer bartista who doesn’t know my husbands crazy coffee habit and I tell her I have a 10 and 8 year old. Another (maybe the same, who knows) little old lady asked me when I started, when I was 12. It would have been a compliment but the disgusted look on her face wasn’t complimentary at all.

    People judge too quickly and really just need to mind their own business.

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